You’re supposed to use every unfair advantage you have. Connections, looks; money, all of it.
You're not noble by picking the hardest path just to look like an underdog.
I saw two handsome females walking into the ladies bathroom and I politely let them know the men’s bathroom was on the other side. They said “I know” and walked by and as soon as they got into better lighting, I saw their chest and realized. I need to mind my own damn business.
i actually think "surface level" friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride or die. some friends are for the gym. some are for going out. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. those deep convos and connections are for the 2-3 people closest to you