The most exhausting, unspoken burden on men in modern dating is that they are expected to be the sole architects of the relationship. A man is expected to initiate the first text, plan the dates, fund the experiences, orchestrate the proposal, and constantly drive the romance forward. We have completely normalized a culture where a woman’s mere presence is considered her "effort." The absolute second a man gets tired of being the only engine keeping the relationship moving and asks for equal romantic effort, he is instantly accused of being "inconsistent" or "low effort." We demand 50/50 modern equality, but aggressively enforce traditional male burdens the exact moment romance is involved.
10 years ago today, Ebro told a 20-year-old Lil Uzi Vert that he would be struggling by age 27/28 (2016)
Lil Uzi Vert: “I ain’t gon’ struggle bro”
Ebro: “Oh we gon’ see… And guess what? I’mma be here”
Ebro’s radio show ‘Ebro in the Morning’ was cancelled last year.
We women live a terrifying double life. A mother will look at her teenage son with absolute, boundless empathy. She will hold him when he cries, tell him his feelings matter, and pray to God that he finds a woman who loves him for his pure heart, not his wallet.
But that exact same woman will turn around and look at her husband, who is literally someone else’s grown son and treat him like a malfunctioning piece of farm equipment if he loses his job or shows a moment of emotional fragility. We completely compartmentalize the fact that the men we drain, stress out, and demand traditional protection from were once little boys who were promised that their hearts mattered.
Look at the advice mothers pass down. It is pure, unfiltered hypocrisy.
We sit our daughters down and say: "Never settle. Make sure he is a provider. If he is struggling financially, do not build him up, leave him. You deserve a King." But if a mother catches wind that her son's girlfriend is treating him that way? If her son loses his job and his girlfriend packs her bags? That mother will lose her mind. She will call the girlfriend a gold-digger. She will call her toxic.
We are actively raising our daughters to become the exact type of women we pray our sons never meet.
Tyrese Haliburton on the team meeting when he realized he wasn’t getting any playing time in the Olympics 😭😭
“Steve starts talking about everybody can’t play. Bron is talking about, in the 04 Olympics I didn’t really play that much… KD over there like… we’re all 12 All-Stars everybody’s good... I’m like, but who are they talking about? I’m looking around like oh he ain’t talking about him… I’m like ahhh, they talking bout me!”
(Via @mindthegamepod)