“you don’t owe anyone anything” is for, like, trauma survivors learning to care about themselves for the first time or whatever. it’s not for you when you’re an Awful Friend
I was wearing my San Jose sharks crewneck at the store and the guy working the Register was like “oh are you a sharks fan?” And I was like yeah and he said “the sharks sucks” and so I asked home what team he was a fan of and he said the flames.