there's a difference between being content with Allah's decree and liking what happened. you can hate the pain, grieve the loss and still say alhamdulillah for Allah's wisdom. sabr doesn't require you to pretend that something didn't hurt.
I am a very hardworking person, i mean, i have an insane work ethic, but at the same time, i am also a very lazy person. I don't know how to explain it.
i would never send someone a gift and expect them to pay for delivery, did they beg me for the gift??
what if they don’t have the money to pay for delivery for the gift THAT I DECIDED TO GET THEM??? it doesn’t even make sense.