Always go to the funeral. Always go to the hospital. You don't need to know what to say.
In times of profound crisis, people don't remember your words, they only remember whether you showed up for them at their lowest moment.
UTH is the best hospital in Zambia if you're patient enough. The rest just look fancy and are less crowded. I strongly recommend that you start your consultations with them and not vice versa.
My dad has been notorious for making “Happy birthday” calls at 6-7am. Which were never convenient. In past years I would likely be asleep or battling a hangover. Did the same to him yesterday and he said I woke him?? He is getting old, we all are 😢❤️