Sometimes you gotta remind people... I was already chosen before you arrived. Already blessed. Already building. You was an addition to the frequency, not the source of it.
I stopped accepting the "I've been busy" "I got a lot going on right now" type excuses from somebody I'm dating because how are you supposed to build something forever if anytime shit gets hard you put me on the shelf? i'm gone.
Getting yo shit together requires a deep level of honesty with yourself, you gotta be able to look at yourself in the mirror & be willing to accept flaws & behavior that's not allowing you to grow , self evaluation is difficult but it's extremely necessary.