What exactly is the logic behind revenge cheating? It is the highest level of hypocrisy I have ever seen. The whole “he cheated, so I’ll cheat back” mindset has never made sense to me. If cheating is something you genuinely consider hurtful, disrespectful, and unforgivable, why would your response be to willingly engage in the very same behavior? If an act is truly beneath your standards, it shouldn't suddenly become acceptable simply because someone else did it first.
For something you claim to find disgusting and hate, why do you have to do it just to get back at him? At that point, you’re simply a cheat who has been looking for an opportunity to do it. Own it with your full chest. If you truly find cheating that despicable, the most rational thing to do is walk away.
The funny thing is that when a man is doing all the amazing things, buying expensive gifts and treating you well, there’s usually no urge to match his energy and “gift back.” Yet when it comes to cheating, suddenly the response is to do the exact same thing in return.
The way I hate tribalism and bigotry, nothing would ever make me engage in them, even if they were directed at me personally. That’s how people react to things they genuinely abhor. Anything you rush to do as a way of getting back at someone is often something you would have done, or at least wanted to do all along, but you just needed a reason that would make you feel justified in doing it.
@diversepsyche@Cr7Godbrand This right there are the issues. She doesn't need him to put her in her in the mood if she is sexually attracted to him. The presence of someone you are attracted to is good enough to put one in the mood.
My friend is 59 and never wanted children , yet lately she opens up to me about how much she regrets that decision, wishing she had at least one. And there I am, a father myself, quietly wondering what my life would have looked like if I had chosen differently too.
In the end, I reminded her of what Kierkegaard once said: no matter which path you choose in life, you will always find a reason to regret it. The road not taken has a way of looking more beautiful the longer you stare at it.