My family lost everything today because of the Weija dam flooding. I donโt know how I feel but for the very first time I know how much having a roof over your head is a huge blessing lots of us underestimate. We need to be grateful for the simplest things in life .
You should study what makes you defensive. The topic you avoid, the joke that irritates you, the question that feels insulting, the feedback you instantly reject. Defensiveness is usually the guard dog sitting in front of a weakness you have not trained yourself to face.
i know you donโt know why things peak at night; why sicknesses get worse at night, why people mostly die at night, you get more hungry at midnight, depression hits more at midnight etc
iโll explain the science behind that now so pay attention and walk with me
your body runs on an internal clock called the circadian rhythm, a 24 hr biological system controlled by the brain that regulates body temperature, hormones, hunger, mood, immunity and alertness. at night, the body shifts into recovery mode. cortisol, a hormone that helps reduce inflammation and pain, drops to its lowest levels, which is why pain, fever, coughing and asthma symptoms feel worse after dark.
the illness itself may not be getting worse but your bodyโs ability to suppress discomfort is reduced.
this is also one reason serious medical events and deaths are more common at night as heart rate, blood pressure and overall alertness naturally decline while the body focuses on maintenance and repair.
nighttime also changes the way we think and feel. hunger tends to increase because leptin (the fullness hormone) falls while ghrelin (the hunger hormone) rises making cravings stronger. then mentally, the absence of noise, work and social interaction leaves the mind alone with its thoughts. serotonin and dopamine levels are lower, melatonin rises and the brain becomes more reflective, emotional and vulnerable. this is why anxiety, loneliness, overthinking, painful memories and even heartbreak often feel more intense at night. with fewer external distractions, the brain amplifies internal sensations, making pain feel louder, thoughts feel heavier and emotions feel deeper.
itโs why many doctors and psychologists advise against making major life decisions late at night, when the brain is more emotionally biased and naturally more pessimistic. learn something. ๐
Do not talk about discernment if you cannot recognise when someone needs compassion more than criticism and correction. There is a time to guide and a time to simply hold space for a person who is hurting. Wisdom knows the difference. And kindness knows it even faster.