So glad I learned how to turn this off. Spiritually its a form of mental bondage. Lot's wife turned into a pillar of salt for this and that's what you are when you become a slave to nostalgia. Renew your mind daily. All you ever have is the present. Be where your feet are.
Uncommon advice: If you don't know what to pursue in life right now. Pursue yourself. Pursue becoming the healthiest, happiest, most healed, most present, most confident version of yourself. Then the right path will reveal itself.
The key is to learn to decide you want to keep going, regardless of logic. That sounds trite and stupid, and yet it’s true. You have to be willing to let yourself be motivated irrationally.
Never everrrrrr be ashamed of having a big and/or empathetic heart. Love is an infinite source and so is kindness. What people choose to do with the energy you naturally put out shouldn’t be your concern. Be that person anyways
But the thing is, I still choose God. Even when it's hard, even when it doesn't make sense, even when it's taking longer than I ever expected, I still choose Him. All I know is, I would rather go through this with Him than without Him.
One idea that has revolutionized my thinking is this: you are allowed to not want things.
You can look at everything society tells you that you need to have and just be like, “Nope. I will not be participating.”
People don't like love. They like that glittery, flirty feeling. They don't love love. Love is sacrificial. Love is ferocious. It's not emotive. Our culture doesn't love love. It loves the idea of love. It wants the emotion without paying anything for it.
I think one of the healthiest things a person can do is become easy to delight. To still stop for weird clouds and dogs wearing bandanas and the smell of garlic cooking somewhere down the street. The world already has enough cynicism. Be the person who still points at the moon.