@1j_oo Who is actually telling you not tor advise and train them? The whole situation is that the very person who is entrusted to advise and train them in school is also sleeping with them
Like you I have first hand experience with this from teaching during my national service, and it forced me to think about the deeper problem.
I was about 22 at the time, and some of the JHS students would make comments like, “Sir, this weekend I want to come to your house oo,” and I’d shut it down immediately. One time, I overheard a student make a comment in twi that essentially translated to, “This teacher he’s even a small boy and sees himself like that,” and that really put things into perspective for me.
It made me realize that a lot of these kids have been groomed by older people in their communities for so long that it feels normal to them. The issue isn’t about how children dress or present themselves. That doesn’t solve this. The problem runs deeper and it always circles back to the adults in their communities.
A child having a crush on an adult isn’t strange. That’s part of adolescence. But the responsibility is always on the adult. The moment you indulge it, you’ve failed that child. And beyond that, your actions don’t just affect that one moment, you condition them to see that behavior as acceptable, which only makes them more vulnerable to other predators.
That’s why this isn’t something you fix by telling kids to behave differently. It’s something adults have to take responsibility for, by setting and maintaining clear boundaries every single time.
“We have a parenting problem in this country”. It takes a village to raise a child. And that “village” includes neighbors, TEACHERS, extended families, you and I. So if the mother fails to teach her kid, the next available person should be the teacher.
But you guys, why do we even have to get to the point where we have to “share blame” and hold this or that person “accountable”? As the adult, are you not supposed to be the one to stop it from even getting to the point where we share blames?
Some of these parents are doing so well in training their kids but they still pick up certain behaviors from outside, movies, the internet. That is why you’re a “teacher”. You correct them when you notice they’re picking up certain behaviors kids are not supposed to pick.
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