You need to be a visionary, at least for your own life.
I recently realised that every other person does not have the ability to create a mental picture of their future, hold on to it and work towards it regardless of their present circumstances.
It was my wife who pointed this out to me. She said some people cannot lead even themselves. instead, they’re loyal followers. They need to be told what to do. They can vaguely describe their future, but lack the ability to formalise it and create an actionable plan, let alone the commitment and consistency to execute that plan.
For people like this, I think it makes sense to find a visionary with similar interests and follow in their footsteps. I do think finding that visionary is more difficult than leading yourself, but it is better than leaving everything to chance.
Some people would have turned out differently if they had someone else who showed them that it is possible to get a job in NNPC, scholarships abroad, etc, without 'connections'.
Since they can’t imagine a better life for themselves, their actions/inactions are motivated by incentives, not vision.
It took a while for me to believe my wife because it’s hard to even imagine that some human beings live like this.
You hear them say things like "school na scam" or use criminals like internet fraudsters as references in their arguments because to them, incentives are all that matters.
They cannot create their own world in their mind, so they reach out to what they consider the 'real world', observe and adopt behaviours the 'real world' rewards.
These are the people who want to study medicine, law or engineering, and more recently want to become software engineers because in the 'real world', there are incentives to pursue these career paths. It is the same explanation for people who have explored UI/UX design, forex, crypto, sports betting, social media influencing, etc, all in their 20s. It looks like hard work, but it isn’t.
Just want to say, the way you dress really matters in some cases like this, if you’re dressed classy or sophisticated no one will send you foolish errands.
If you’re the guy who almost had an accident on Eko bridge this night better prepare special testimony to give on sunday.
My first time seeing real panic on someone’s face.
It’s only God that saved you o ahhh
You guys do not know the reality of being a slim girl in Nigeria where being thick is the beauty standard that's why you keep invalidating our experiences
You’re a black woman making a thread for younger girls on how to handle hair and nothing about their natural hair. Also, the classism, most girls can’t afford this ‘hair intelligence’ and it’s very interesting (derogatory) that all the affordable options are branded as ‘tacky’
“I hate cancer so much”
“You don’t hate malaria, it kills so many people daily”
“I am talking about cancer right now”
“Ohh my God, she doesn’t care about millions who have died from malaria”
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Almost every woman I know personally has been sexually assaulted at some point in their lives. You can't think it's okay to shut people up from speaking up about assault because some people lie. If you lie, you should face consequences - but that's not the conversation I'm having. Nor is it one I'm interested in having. How many of your male friends have they lied against? How many of your friends have actually assaulted women as vibes?? Women are terrified to go out. Women in their homes are not safe either. Ask your sisters. Ask your female friends and your girlfriends. Ask your wives. We're not all crazy. STOP RAPING WOMEN!!
Veekee James can NEVER tell a story without making it seem like she suffered the most suffering ever to be suffered. And God delivered her.
She's so performative. Ugh🤦🏾♂️
So many of us work for huge companies, we come up with and execute huge ideas that you guys may even use on a daily basis and you’ll never know our names. It’s just being an employee 😭