The only type of social media pressure I’ll ever feel and has ever successfully gotten to me is ACADEMIC PRESSURE.
The graduation pictures are lit, that PhD gown is sexy AF and I’ll be wearing it soon. By force & fire!
Top kisser!! Been a top kisser all my life.
I kissed this guy one time and mid-kiss I realized…
Oh. This one is a top kisser too.
Naturally I switched to bottom because I don’t like it .
He switched back to top.
I switched again. He switched again.
We were rotating positions. And that’s when I knew.
This is the kind of man that wants to be babied.
Because to me, being a bottom kisser is real control. You’re the one regulating the whole situation.
You control the pace.
You decide how the warmth spreads.
Bottom kisser is the lead.
But this man insisted on being top.
Meaning he wanted me to be the one creating all the heat and warmth.
Ohhh.
So you don’t want to generate warmth.
You want to feel warm.
You want to stand there and be handled.
Princess tendencies.
From that one kiss I saw the future.
And in that future, I was doing manual labor.
Never again. 😭
I have a co-worker who never announces anything. You don’t know she applied for a promotion until she’s already in the new office. You don’t realize she bought her own place until she casually mentions “heading home to finish painting.” She doesn’t post milestones. Doesn’t crowdsource opinions. Doesn’t invite commentary.
I used to think she was secretive. That success was supposed to be shared loudly. That excitement needed an audience.
Now I see it differently.
She moves with intention. Quiet. Focused. Certain. Her plans are protected while they’re still fragile. Her joy isn’t diluted by outside noise. She lets things grow roots before she shows the world the bloom.
It isn’t secrecy. It’s discernment. It’s peace. It’s self-trust.
Sometimes the strongest people are the ones who build their lives softly, without applause, and let their results speak when they’re ready.
rather than touching grass, i recommend going to a concert and experiencing the live performance of that one song you hold religiously close to your heart.
Every woman needs to book a hotel in another state with a spa for their birthday and do a shopping trip. ALONE. Set up dinner dates, museum, take super long to get ready and just people watch at cafes💕💕