This kain thing Dey vex me Wallahi. So make I close from work that’s demanding and start uber when? Sleep when? Be with family when? All because a few people decide that the country is theirs to have. Kai Allah ya isa.
Quand j’ai compris en allant chercher des réponses à mes questions , mtn la voir pleurer quand elle est fatiguée ça me brise le cœur
Elle ne sait juste pas comment s’endormir , ça se construit au fil des mois
Et ça me rends hyper triste, un truc grave basique pour nous « ferme les yeux et dors »
Pour eux c’est un truc qu’il faut acquérir et ils ne savent juste pas comment faire
Ils sont perdus, hyper fatigués, ça les frustrent , ils pleurent..
I need the Average Arewa Woman to make Allah the center of her life and let go of Control . To understand that your Qadr has been written before everything was created , To understand that Good Marriage is like Wealth , Some would have it and some wouldn’t and to understand that there’s no Man born of a Woman that istighfar and Salawat can’t get you and to realize the reason why you are repeatedly told to be Patient because the Dunya is a very very tough place to be , To realize that there’s more to life than the approval of a Man and most importantly to look at the Ayat of Allah and realize that by merely looking at the Sun and the Moon that a Living and Just Supreme Being Exists because a mere being can’t create all that we see . And to have unshakable yakeen that Allah would be there for you always even when it doesn’t feel like it . I know that you want to be the Star of your house and life but at what cost ? Your Kids need you in Jannah .
This man is the final boss of yearning. Followed his story from when he lost his wife to the bits he’d randomly post on x about her. May Allah give us spouses who love and remember us even in death.
And yet the north has the highest rate of multidimensional poverty, insecurity, unemployment, out of school children in Nigeria. And many more bad things.
“Proper elites” my foot. The north has an abundance of greedy and cruel rich families, not elites.
Yes I’ll admit
That post about Caesarian section triggered me
Because I’m a woman who was in labour for 40 hours
I was given the maximum dose of oxytocin three times to induce labour and did not dilate beyond 2cm
I was so mentally prepared to push out a human but my body just wouldn’t
Which one should I talk about?
The intense pain ripping through me every few minutes?
Should I talk about how excruciating it is to have doctors check you for dilation while you’re actively in labour?
Should I talk about the exhaustion?
Should I talk about how that when those who have vaginal delivery have long forgotten CS moms are still grappling with wounds and pain and numbness and tingling from the anaesthetsia?
I had my baby in Canada and the nurses kept asking me if I wanted a pain relief
I did not want any drug to interfere
I was ready to bear the pain and I did
I think I have the most supportive husband in the world. He stood there every second with me. Holding my hand. Wincing as Pain coursed through me
But he did not feel the pain. Not the physical one.
I did.
So has every woman who has gone through this
When the doctors saw that my contractions were not the “good type”, they said I could get a uterine rupture, I had to be taken for a CS.
And everyday I’m grateful to God for the miracle of a CS
That a mother who has given her all can still have her baby and they both be fine
So sir, when you have had contractions for 40 hours
When you have had 7 layers of your body sliced open so you can bring forth children
When you have gone months nursing a wound that is layers deep
When you’ve been placed on a cold surgical table and cut 7 layers deep
For some 4 times.
Then come back and have this Conversation with me
Thank God for your mother and the long line of women in your family that had vaginal deliveries.
But no two women are the same.
Don’t put that burden on the woman you would marry.
A CS is not a shortcut
A CS does not make a woman weak
A CS does not happen because you did not pray enough or you’re unlucky
A CS is a medical miracle so that women like me especially pre term moms, can come out alive from the mystery that is pregnancy and childbirth
Blessings.
Lol I just feel y’all don’t understand marriage. There are certain things your husband will also know you won’t allow. It’s a 2 way thing and there are lotsa things you do to keep peace and love in your home. It’s better to avoid someone who’s against your chosen lifestyle than to enter and be fighting a useless battle.
Having a baby physically shrinks part of a woman's brain. Having a second baby shrinks a totally different part. Scientists in Amsterdam just figured out why, and the explanation involves the same process that happens in teenage brains.
This is from a research group in Amsterdam called the Pregnancy Brain Lab. They published their findings in Nature Communications on February 19, 2026. The team scanned the brains of 110 women. 40 were about to have their first baby, 30 were about to have their second, and 40 had never been pregnant. They scanned everyone before pregnancy and again after birth.
The results were so consistent that a computer program could look at any of those brain scans and correctly tell whether the woman had been pregnant. Every single time.
When a woman has her first baby, the biggest changes happen in the part of the brain that handles thinking about yourself and other people. The same region that runs daydreaming and inner monologue. That whole area visibly shrinks. And it stays shrunk for at least six years after birth, according to a 2021 follow-up study by the same team.
When she has a second baby, that same area shifts a little more, but the biggest changes happen somewhere else. They happen in the part of the brain that controls what you focus on, and the part that controls how your body moves. Even the wiring between the brain and the muscles becomes more efficient. Lead researcher Milou Straathof said it looks like the brain rewiring itself for taking care of more than one kid at a time.
The shrinking sounds bad. The lab compares it to what happens in teenage brains during puberty. Hormones flood the brain and trigger a kind of cleanup. Weak connections between brain cells get cleared away. The strong ones stay and get stronger. The brain ends up smaller, but the connections that remain work faster. The hormonal flood of pregnancy seems to do the same thing.
Elseline Hoekzema, who runs the Pregnancy Brain Lab and has been studying this since 2017, told CNN: sometimes less is more.
The pattern is layered. The first pregnancy does the deep work on identity and how a mom thinks about her baby. The second pregnancy adds a new layer focused on attention and movement.
About one in five new mothers globally develops postpartum depression. The same brain circuits being remodeled here are the ones tied to mood and bonding with the baby. Mapping what a healthy maternal brain looks like is the first step toward catching when something goes wrong.