One of the healthiest things I’ve learnt over the years is to allow people reintroduce themselves to you, even those closest to you. Familiarity shouldn’t become a cage. People change. Love them for who they are now, not just who they were then.
The reason why the most important journeys you go on have to be alone is bc you have to forge your identity without using reassurance as a crutch. If you live for applause you will die from boos. It’s gotta be just you standing ten toes on your personhood.
one thing about genuinely becoming a better person is that you have to be willing to admit you’re not always a good one. people who refuse to self-reflect rarely change.
we, as a society, have fallen out of love with the process. everyone wants the reward, but nobody wants to bleed for it. you have to become addicted to the daily, unglamorous work of stacking bricks. you cannot bypass the ungodly toll it takes to become undeniable. fall in love with the relentless pursuit.
I'm telling you — now, as much as ever, you must write by hand every morning. You must write three pages on whatever is currently on your mind. You must preserve and strengthen your thinking through your writing.
Ngl I like unusual people. The black sheep, the odd ducks, the eccentrics, the artists, the loners. People who actually think for themselves, the kind whose values are not swayed by groupthink. These people have beautiful souls.
Frustration as a signal shows up in the actual psychology too. Bjork calls it "desirable difficulty": the studying that feels smoothest (rereading, highlighting) produces the weakest retention, while the effortful, error-prone methods that feel like failure produce the strongest.
My little contribution to society is creating spaces where people around me don’t have to perform . They can simply come as they are and be vulnerable ...
one of the smartest things a person can do is admit they were wrong when new information changes their perspective. some of you are defending opinions you don’t even agree with anymore just because you don’t want to back down 😂