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The most disabling symptom of ADHD is the paralysis. It's the deep, internal shame of knowing exactly what to do... and just sitting there, watching yourself not do it.
i love entirely to hard.. & because of that i put up blinders.. && even if there are red flags or you do something to hurt me, ill see past it and somehow blame myself for why you did what you did and/or still point out the good you have.
If Iโm being completely honest, half the things I went through were because of me, my lack of discipline, ignoring my gut feelings, my inability to set boundaries, say NO when necessary, and my poor decision-making.
My boyfriend handed me his phone to show me a meme.
A message popped up.
โI miss last night already โ
He froze.
I looked at him.
The color drained from his face so fast youโd think the truth had a body count.
โItโs not what you think,โ he said quickly, grabbing for the phone.
I didnโt move.
I didnโt blink.
I just smiled.
Because I already knew.
I had sent that text, from a fake number just to see what heโd do.
Not to see if he cheated.
To see if heโd lie.
And he did.
In 2023, I dated a guy who forgot my birthday and sent me money at 7 p.m. to make up for it.
(I sent it back and blocked him.)
In 2024, I dated another guy who asked what I wanted for my birthday even asked my shoe and clothing size. I gave him all the details, and when my birthday came? Nothing. Not a single gift. I cut him off after that.
Then in 2025, my birthday (in November) came around. The man I was dating just four months in asked what I wanted, and I said, โAspen.โ A week later, the trip was booked. When we got back, I was met with flowers, champagne, and a charcuterie board waiting for me.
Why am I telling you this?
Because I want you to remember:
A. Donโt stay with a man who forgets about you.
B. Donโt stay with a man who overpromises and never delivers.
C. Wait for the man who shows up, goes above and beyond, and means what he says.
D. Donโt close your heart just because others disappointed you.
There is a man out there who can, who will, and who wants to do it all for you.