My toxic trait is I think iced coffee is the solution to anything. Thirsty? Iced coffee. Hungry? Iced coffee. Happy? Iced coffee. Tired? Iced coffee with a couple shots.
With chronic illness, you normalise so many things most people won't ever feel. You normalise high levels of pain, being exhausted, medical procedures and trauma, needing to rest after a shower. People see you surviving with an illness, but not all you had to normalise to do so.
“Don’t ask friends for help moving as an adult” “don’t ask friends to do a potluck as an adult” you can literally ask me to hold your hand at the dentist and I will do it