I've been seeing people tussle with this tweet all day but nobody's mentioned one other point which is that some of the people you guys think are shy actually just don't like you
You should study what makes you defensive. The topic you avoid, the joke that irritates you, the question that feels insulting, the feedback you instantly reject. Defensiveness is usually the guard dog sitting in front of a weakness you have not trained yourself to face.
Banter & wittiness is such a dying art because people don’t read and lack nuance. But I just loveee when I can be facetious with someone and they GET IT.
Somewhere in your 20s or 30s you’ll get the opportunity to rebuild your life after a negative loop. It's very important that you see that journey through.