Women are absolutely terrible at holding their friends accountable. Your friend group will literally watch you make the most destructive, toxic relationship and financial choices possible, and instead of telling you the harsh truth, they will just hype you up in the group chat with "he doesn't deserve you, queen." A lot of women aren't victims of bad men; they are victims of enabler friends who refuse to tell them when they are the ones ruining their own lives.
They don’t REALLY want a man with emotional intelligence; they actually want a man who practices “EMOTIONAL ACCOMMODATION.”
What they really want is: I want to feel and express my emotions however I want, whenever I want, and you will take it, validate it, and comfort me… even if it destroys you in the process.
Emotional intelligence isn’t about catering to someone else’s every mood. It’s the ability to control your OWN emotions, think clearly under pressure, and respond like a rational adult. It’s about self-control, awareness, and taking responsibility for how your feelings affect others.
also when they say they want a man with emotional mature, what they actually mean is: be hyper-attentive to my moods, anticipate my feelings, bend
yourself around me, and put my emotions above everything else. But the moment a man stands up for his own feelings, sets
boundaries, or refuses to constantly carry their emotional load, he’s branded “insensitive” emotionally unitelligent or “emotionally immature.”
Let’s be honest: they don’t want intelligence…they want an emotional punching bag.
If you’re going to do it, then do it. If you can’t, then don’t claim you can. Don’t over promise. Don’t over leverage your choices. Discipline is not just action it’s honesty with yourself.