my therapist dropped a gem: “you can't spend your life avoiding heartbreak or bad things from happening. you have to condition yourself to have appropriate emotional responses but learn to keep moving forward” whewww
this psychologist on TikTok said that she makes boundaries based on her actions rather than other people's actions so "i don't stay in conversations where i'm spoken to a certain way" vs "don't talk to me this way" 1/2
Heartbreak steals your innocence. I remember being so deeply in love and so naive—there’s a bittersweetness when I think back, knowing I’ll never be that soft or vulnerable again.
We don't talk nearly enough about "papercuts" in a relationship. Everytime there's raised voices, cruel words, lack of support, short temper, lack of affection, etc., a tiny wound is created. Not enough to make you leave, but enough to make part of you pull away & lose a
In my years of experience counselling married couples, here's a marriage advice I could give:
1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
Necessary thread...
I really look up to & admire ppl who graduate from college! It’s not even about the degree.. The amount of DISCIPLINE, self motivation, & dedication it takes & teaches you in life, is something I want for myself..
My parents raised a complete go-getter. I never had to use people for anything, I’ve always brought the table to the table. I couldn’t imagine pretending to love people to use them for what they have. I leave with the golden platter just like I came with it.
my life got better when I realized I don’t have to be nice. being nice got me ran over, taken advantage of, stressed out and disrespected. I'm not nice. I’m a good person. There's a difference.
shit been hurting my feelings from every angle lately & I just been taking it on the chin ...Im learning to take everything for what it is & not what I want it to be , or what it "used" to be ... so if you feel like I'm a lil distant , just understand that you created the space.
shit been hurting my feelings from every angle lately & I just been taking it on the chin ...Im learning to take everything for what it is & not what I want it to be , or what it "used" to be ... so if you feel like I'm a lil distant , just understand that you created the space.
Dating someone with emotional intelligence who is not afraid of difficult conversations and willing to communicate and fix things together because they care about you and know sometimes they're the problem >>>
If someone really wants to be with u & cares, u wont have to ask them to call you. you wont have to ask them to come see u & you won’t have to ask them how they feel. you’d be one of their top priorities & you’d feel like it. ppl only put in effort for things that matter to them.