bell hooks is a ~controversial~ figure but she cooked when she said a lot of people do not want to deal with the fact that they were not treated lovingly as children and are trying to reconcile that dynamic with what they understand to be love
People avoiding me after they’ve done me dirty is exactly what I expect. I don’t require closure. I get it. You’re a cowardly weasel. You were a weasel when you did it, you will likely respond to the situation as a weasel would.
No one wants to go through parenthood alone which is why I don’t understanding voluntarily signing up for a lifetime commitment knowing the other person isn’t shit and most likely won’t be of any use. I have never wanted motherhood that bad, but that’s just me.