"I'm proud of you"
Being loved loudly
"Let's figure this out"
"I saw this and thought of you"
"Everything is going to be fine"
"I got you this cause I know you'd like it"
"You've talked about this, let's work on it"
"What can I do to make me a better person for you"
On what frank said, people really need to stop normalizing bad behavior with gender based excuses. Presenting male infidelity as normal while judging women for it is a clear double standard lol. It is toxic double standards being normalized as intelligence.
Adultery is adultery. Betrayal is betrayal. If loyalty matters in a relationship, then it should apply to both men and women equally. Men are not wired differently in a way that suddenly removes accountability or morality from their actions. A grown man should be responsible for his choices instead of hiding behind tired narratives that excuse infidelity.
And let’s be honest, many men completely lose their minds when they are cheated on because they cannot handle a taste of the same pain they casually expect women to endure silently. That alone exposes the double standard.
Women also have every right to leave a marriage or relationship on the grounds of adultery. Nobody is obligated to tolerate repeated disrespect because society keeps telling them 'that’s just how men are'. No, it is how some men choose to behave, and choices have consequences.
What even happened to the male morality? Is it that it's only women that should be morally upright? Why not do unto others what you want to be done to you? You know that cheating hurts when it's been done to you, why do it to your partner?
Y'all should be more careful with the ideas you push, especially to younger generations. We should be teaching young men discipline, integrity, emotional maturity, and accountability, not giving them excuses for selfish behavior. Everybody needs to do better tbh.
I want to be rich. But not Lamborghini
or Rolex rich, I want to be rich enough to go to the gym at 3pm and nobody can tell me no. To tap the family in front of me at the supermarket and say, "It's on me," Rich enough that my future wife never has to worry about getting a job. Rich enough to show my children the world, not pictures of it. Rich enough to take my friends to dinner and say, "| got this", Rich enough that God uses me to help the people who are in need. That's my version of rich.
24th January 2022. A day I can never forget.
I went to eat at Buka Hut at gbagada, just to treat myself and have a good day.
Halfway through, my PERIOD came unexpectedly… and I had no pad, no backup, nothing.
I didn’t even know.
After eating, I decided to get ice Cream, because why not spoil myself a little more?
As I stood up, I noticed people staring… but I didn’t understand why. It wasn’t until I got to the ice cream stand that a guy walked up to me quietly and said: “Excuse me… your backside is stained. Please, take my jacket to cover up.”
In that moment, I wanted the ground to open and swallow me. But his kindness… it calmed me.
No noise. No embarrassment. Just respect.
He gave me his jacket, wrapped it around me, and even offered to order me an Uber home.
I insisted on paying, but honestly, I was just grateful someone chose kindness over ridicule.
I asked how I’d return his jacket. He smiled and said, “Don’t worry about it.” But I took his number anyway…🥰
Today, that same man is my DARLING HUSBAND.😍
And funny enough, Buka Hut is still our favourite spot till today. ❤️
Sometimes, love doesn’t start with butterflies.🦋
Sometimes, it starts with kindness in your most vulnerable moment.✌🏼💖