Aby || Brown-skinned girl 🤎

Sapiophile. Introvert. Digital extrovert. Believer. Trilingual. A kind soul. Sweet tooth. Amala🤎 1 Cor. 13 | Future #identicaltwins mom

[Aby || Brown-skinned girl 🤎 @_ebunolu]

Yesss
And
Someday
🙏🏾📍

[feyisayo 💸 @feyiszn]

I really want to experience traveling with someone I’m in love with.

[LADE HERSELF @Thebiglade]

Guys,those jobs where they give you a house and a car,what course do you study??

[Felix The GenZ HR is HIRING @bsong_HR]

Women consider too many things berore taking jobs, especially married women.

The real heroes!

Yesterday, I made a hybrid offer to a super candidate who has been very excited about joining our conpany but she declined it because her baby just started school and she won't be able to do any job that will take her a little far from the school or home.

Shout out to every working/career woman out there who's taking it all in and those trying to get a life regardless of their kids. It's not easy

[Small girl 🙈 big God 💪 @TheOnlyKemi]

The painful part is not even the shawarma and parfait. It's realizing that the person enjoying the money understands ‘I can’t come and kill myself,’ while the person making the sacrifices somehow forgets the same thing. Sometimes the most generous people need to learn how to be generous to themselves too.

[Piggyvest @piggyvest]

The pain and frustration in this thread are real. And so many of you know exactly how it feels to be the one everyone counts on. Choosing yourself feels wrong, but choosing others drains you.

We have a name for it: Black Tax.

It’s the financial support Black and African income earners provide to their families (including parents, siblings, and even extended relatives). This support often goes beyond occasional gifts and includes necessities such as healthcare, housing, education, and daily living expenses.

According to the Piggyvest Savings Report 2025, more than three in five Nigerian income earners pay black tax. Among those who do, the experience of these commitments varies. Some feel firmly in control of their obligations, while others say it is manageable but sometimes challenging. For a smaller but important group, these commitments feel difficult to sustain or overwhelming altogether.

The cruel irony of black tax is that the more responsible you are, the more it costs you. The more you earn, the more is expected. The more you give, the less anyone asks if you're okay.

It also doesn’t stop when you earn more. Ekene*, a software consultant earning over ₦1 million monthly, tells us he barely has anything left to save at the end of the month, regardless of how well he plans, because both immediate and extended family members depend on him.

Read his story: https://t.co/v0BfSPdw1E

*Name changed to protect his identity.

If you’re currently burdened by black tax, here are a few things that could help:
- Understand your financial reality
- Always pay yourself first
- Don’t rush into taking up responsibilities
- Create a sustainable black tax budget and stick to it
- Set clear and healthy boundaries, but communicate openly and honestly
- Choose your battles and learn to say no
Read more here: https://t.co/VxlUxLUGcf

Remember: You are not an ATM. Caring for people you love and building a life for yourself are not mutually exclusive, but it takes intention.

[Global woman 🌎 @iamgoodie01]

Young ladies, please do not listen to him. He is lying to you. If you aim to attain the height of your professional career and personal goals and you also desire marriage, it is very important that you do not settle for nonsense. The wrong decision will affect you badly
and most importantly you do not have to settle for polygamy if you do not desire it. Please you deserve the best, choose the best for yourself even if you have to say no many times till you find the ONE you desire.

[Oluwatobi Bamidele 😍❤️ @callmetobiloba]

I need people, especially Nigerians, to release themselves from the shackles of marrying anyone just because they want to be married by all means

[Aby || Brown-skinned girl 🤎 @_ebunolu]

@Kefasgyurison Congratulations 🎉

[Abraham Samuel @abraham_udobia_]

Spoke with a lady few weeks ago. From and lives in US. No university degree but working in a hospital prolly as an assistant, age (19) but she has a car and went to Florida for a 4 days vacation.

Man ohh man.

[Aby || Brown-skinned girl 🤎 @_ebunolu]

@ItAintIzzyy Omoo 😞

[Andrella @___andrella__]

Nigeria denies you a lot of things, but you don’t even know you have been denied anything till you travel out.
It’s so crazy. No vacations, no holidays, can’t afford basic health care, eating healthy food is a luxury, if you do it’s never sustainable on a meager salary. 😞

[Aby || Brown-skinned girl 🤎 @_ebunolu]

@Steel_Dandelion Chai! I actually understand that feeling

[Ifediche @esther_stan]

If you’re petite and slim, the disrespect is big big o

[𝗦𝘂𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗰 @lil_jummix]

People never believe I'm an elderly woman when I tell them my real age.

[Aby || Brown-skinned girl 🤎 @_ebunolu]

@AdeboWalayyy Sameee 😂😭 most of the time, I declutter my clothes cos they’re old or I was tired of them not that they were no longer my size

[Presh Lee🥰✨ @Presh__lee]

The age I'm turning tomorrow scares me because this is no the body for that age 😭😂

The disrespect that comes with having a small body is second to none.

[Buy perfume oils ko ta san san🍝 @i_iyanz]

The disrespect is not small small o. It’s big big and people will do it to your face!

[Aby || Brown-skinned girl 🤎 @_ebunolu]

@omotomilola Sameee 😂😤

[Adenike Lanlehin @omotomilola]

As a small-framed person, it’s not small small disrespect; it’s a lot. This is why I’m quick to light people up when I smell a whiff of disrespect.

[Aby || Brown-skinned girl 🤎 @_ebunolu]

@taiwo_junzi Omo! the journey still far 😤