"É do ouro de Oxum que é feita a armadura que cobre o meu corpo, garante meu sangue, minha garganta. O veneno do mal não acha a passagem e em meu coração Maria acende sua luz e me aponta o caminho."
A vida é curta demais para amar alguém que te faz sentir que pedir carinho é pedir demais. Fiquem com quem responde, demonstra, procura, abraça e deixa claro que quer você por perto. Amor não deveria parecer um peso.
Isso me fez lembrar que aqui em Rio das Ostras a pref fez toda iluminação da lagoa e agora as pessoas >usam< essa parte da cidade q era largada e perigosa
Isso me faz lembrar de quando o Freixo foi ridicularizado na campanha para prefeito, por pregar mais iluminação pública para melhorar a sensação de segurança
Turns out there are hundreds of foreign girls on Instagram who talk about this same thing happening to them in Rio, Medellin, Mexico City, etc, etc lol
A psychologist watched thousands of couples argue for 40 years. The ones who stayed together and the ones who divorced fought just as much. How often you fight barely predicts anything. The clearest warning sign is quieter: one partner rolling their eyes at the other.
His name is John Gottman. He wired couples up to heart monitors, filmed them fighting, then waited years to see who broke up.
The couples who lasted shared one habit. For every cold moment in a fight, a snap, a jab, a nasty look, they had about five warm ones. A joke, a hand on the knee, a quiet "okay, fair." When they were getting along, the warm stuff outweighed the cold by far more. The couples heading for a split were running close to even, more digs than make-ups. The warmth around the fight is what held them together.
The worst sign of all is contempt. That word covers eye-rolling, sarcasm, mocking how your partner talks, treating them like they are stupid or beneath you. Gottman could watch a couple fight for fifteen minutes and guess who would divorce with about 90% accuracy, mostly by counting moments like that. Plain old anger barely registered. Some of the couples who yelled the loudest turned out to be the happiest, as long as they were kind to each other the rest of the time.
There is also a physical reason the calm conversation he wants is nearly impossible in the heat of a fight. When your heart races past about 100 beats a minute, your body drops into survival mode, and the part of your brain that listens and feels for someone else goes quiet. Gottman called it flooding. Your body needs a full twenty minutes to settle, and only if you stop replaying the fight in your head. Loving someone does not switch off the adrenaline.
Most of what couples fight about never gets fixed anyway. Around 69% of it comes from the basic ways two people differ, in personality and in what they want out of life, and that does not change. Happy couples have the same three or four arguments for thirty years. They just stop trying to win and learn to argue without cutting each other down.
So the line in the tweet has it backwards. A couple that never fights is often the one quietly falling apart. Usually it means one person stopped speaking up, and the warmth drained away while the room stayed calm.
Ja passei por infinitos bizarros episódios disso aqui com um ex mt específico kkkryng imagina como ele ficaria hj em dia cmg trabalhando com mkt musical etc 🥴🥴🥴🫨🫨🫨
e isso eh mto doído e mto prazeroso sentir pq não se trata da visão q o outro teve de mim ou tem agora, e nem do que essa pessoa me causou, mas pra mim eh separar meio q o “artista da obra”. ok eu não gosto dessa pessoa mas ela eh e smp foi mto boa no que faz, que vença!!!!! ✨🍀
tem 1 pessoa específico que a vida levou aí dentro dos últimos dois anos no pacote q tipo kkkk apesar de claramente me odiar eu fico sabendo das coisas e vendo as coisas e fico 🤞🏼🍀🤞🏼🍀🤞🏼🍀🤞🏼🍀 voa crl merece mto