Why Wait Till They Are Dead?
We wait for death to happen because, as long as we are alive and the people around us are breathing, the truth feels dangerous. To look deeply at your life to admit you are in the wrong career, or that you are lonely in your marriage, or that you have shrunk yourself to fit into a room requires a level of accountability that is uncomfortable. It's much easier to stay in the “waiting room” of the mundane, telling ourselves that we have time.
Why Wait Till They Are Dead?
We wait for death to happen because, as long as we are alive and the people around us are breathing, the truth feels dangerous. To look deeply at your life to admit you are in the wrong career, or that you are lonely in your marriage, or that you have shrunk yourself to fit into a room requires a level of accountability that is uncomfortable. It's much easier to stay in the “waiting room” of the mundane, telling ourselves that we have time.
The weight of feeling unlovable isn't a lack of character. It’s a heavy, dusty armor that was once used for protection, but has now become a cage. And the thing about that cage is that the door has been unlocked the entire time. They just haven't learned how to turn the knob and trust that it will open yet.
We don't need to tell people they deserve love. We need to acknowledge that the world has, at some point, made them feel like they had to earn their right to occupy space. We need to talk about the fact that for many, the most difficult thing they will ever do isn't working hard or being successful, it’s sitting still and allowing someone else to love them without feeling like they have to work for it.