Some nights I still pick up my phone and check for a message I already know isn’t coming. Not because I’m waiting for a text, but because a part of me misses how things used to be. It’s strange how someone can go from being the first person you talk to every day to someone you no longer hear from at all. The conversation ended, but the habit of missing them never really did.
How a Narcissist Apologizes
A narcissist does not apologize like a normal person. Their apologies are not about taking responsibility. They are about ending the conversation, shifting blame, or maintaining control. Here is what their apologies actually sound like.
The "Sorry You Feel That Way" Apology
They say, "sorry you feel that way." This is not an apology. It is dismissal. They are not admitting fault. They are blaming your feelings for being too sensitive.
The "But" Apology
"Sorry, but you made me angry." "Sorry, but you provoked me." The word "but" cancels everything before it. They are not sorry. They are justifying.
The Dramatic Over Apology
They cry, wail, and carry on. "I am the worst person ever. I do not deserve you." This is not humility. It is manipulation. They want you to comfort them instead of holding them accountable.
The Vague Apology
"Sorry for whatever I did." This is empty. They are not acknowledging the specific harm. They are avoiding specifics so they do not have to change.
The Non Apology Actions
They buy gifts. They act extra sweet. They do chores. But they never say the words "I was wrong." They expect you to accept the behaviour as an apology. It is not. It is a bribe.
The Forced Apology
When cornered, they mutter a quick "sorry" with no eye contact and no emotion. They say it just to end the conversation. They do not mean it. And they will do the same thing again tomorrow.
What a Real Apology Looks Like:
A real apology is specific. "I did this specific thing. It hurt you. I was wrong."
A real apology has no "but." No excuses. No blame shifting.
A real apology leads to changed behaviour. Not just words.
If you are constantly accepting fake apologies, you are not being loved. You are being managed.
one of the hardest things to accept is that some people will never know how much they meant to you. they'll move on, make new memories, and keep living their life. meanwhile, you're still thinking about moments they probably forgot a long time ago
I keep checking my phone, hoping your name lights up the screen. Every notification feels like it could be you. The hardest part isn’t the silence, it’s not knowing if you miss me too. We used to talk for hours, now I’m left rereading old messages. Funny how a few texts can make someone feel so close, then so far away.