I don't follow the "respect is earned" philosophy. I respect everyone automatically and then each person has the opportunity to lose my respect based on their behavior.
I’m the friend you have to talk to everyday that’s how I do friendship idgaf I’m not with all that once a month random check ins Are we sisters or no ?????
I’m not as avoidant as it seems. I’m good at having the hard conversations. I welcome them actually. But unfortunately, I do not have hard conversations with people who I know will no longer be in my life either way.
90% of people are followers. So the 10% who actually think for ourselves look crazy. Y’all controlled by the media. Controlled by popular opinion. Don’t even know how to form your own opinions. Just repeat what you’re told and attack anyone who questions it.
I’m moving forward with my life and I’m no longer questioning people’s behavior or trying to make it make sense. I used to be overly forgiving, always giving the benefit of the doubt and I’m not doing that shit anymore.
-Say please when asking
-Say thank you when receiving.
-Say excuse me when interrupting or passing by.
-Say sorry when you’re wrong.
-Greet people politely.
-Listen without interrupting.
-Respect personal space.
-Use a calm, respectful tone.
-Be punctual or inform if you’ll be late.
-Clean up after yourself.
-Avoid using your phone when someone is talking to you.
-Knock before entering.
-Cover your mouth when coughing or sneezing.
-Be honest and kind.
-Treat everyone with respect, regardless of status
Can we talk about how people will disrespect you in small doses so you can’t call it out? They’re never FULLY wrong, just wrong enough to make you uncomfortable. A little comment here, a small dismissal there, a minor boundary crossed. Nothing big enough to argue about, but everything together adds up to straight disrespect.
If you’re the type of person to jump all in and be dedicated to your role as a friend or lover; I BEG YOU cut all ties with people who show signs of having an “avoidant personality”
The quickest way to be respected is by not tolerating disrespect. You teach people how to interact with you with each interaction. What you permit, you promote.
You are supposed to be triggered when someone mistreats, lies to, or disrespects you. You can heal to lessen the intensity of that trigger, but having a reaction to poor treatment means your body is alive, alert, and reminding you that you deserve better.