Your childhood experiences are never your fault, but your adult responsibility is to heal from them so you don't damage every person who tries to love you.
I don't know who needs to hear this but someone recently told me "no amount of waiting will make you more brave, and no amount of worrying will make it more safe."
And honestly I think about this everyday.
This line from Atomic Habits isn't ready to leave my head:
"It doesn't make sense to continue wanting something if you're not willing to do what it takes to get it. If you don't want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire. To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment."
My therapist told me that
"There's a theory that depression is sometimes the soul's way of rejecting the life you're forcing yourself to live. It's not failure it's misalignment. Your spirit shuts down when you're too far from your purpose, people, or path." And then it all made sense.
My therapist once told me: Imagine being bitten by a snake and, instead of treating the bite, you waste time chasing the snake to understand why it bit you and prove you didn't deserve it.
I think one of the biggest misunderstandings about relationships is the expectation that they’ll always be easy, healthy, and perfectly balanced. Real love is messier than that. Your partner will lean on you when they’re struggling. They’ll make mistakes. They’ll have flaws, bad days, and wounds that don’t disappear overnight. And so will you.
I'm at a point in my life where I pray to keep meeting the right people. People who genuinely want the best for me, hold me in high regard, and add peace to my life.
Human approval is unstable. Someone may praise you today and criticize you tomorrow, so it's wiser to anchor your life in deeper principles than in other people's opinions.