an emotionally mature partner is rare. to be able to say,"hey, this bothers me" and watch them listen...really listen. no defensiveness. no turning it back on you. just.. "i hear you. i get it." and then the change happens. not weeks later. not after three more fights. but right there. because your comfort matters to them. because they value the us more than the ego. that's love on its highest setting
gentle love is so weird, like wdym you’re not mad at me bc i’m overthinking, wdym your not mad at me bc i’m reacting badly. i expect you to get annoyed but you don’t. your just patient & not bothered at all. no one’s ever loved me like this