I don’t think people realize how beneficial being alone for a while is. Taking time off to reconnect with yourself, figure out what you want, and learn to love your own company is crucial. Growth happens when you are truly content without needing anyone else.
I spent a long time thinking that communication was key. Until one day, I realised it wasn't communication that I was searching for, but understanding. You can sit for hours explaining the deepest parts of your mind, trying to put your feelings into words and trying to be seen, but if the other person doesn't truly hear you, it’s all meaningless noise. Somehow, that's the loneliest feeling of all. Being open, vulnerable and pouring your heart out, only to realise they never understood you the way you needed to be understood.
Becoming distant with everyone bec one random day it hit me that people don't really care for me the way I care for them. Since then, I’ve slowly stopped giving sm of myself to people who would never do the same for me. It's exhausting loving people deeply & still feeling alone.
Luxuries we forget that are luxuries:
1. Your mom still around
2. Hot water
3. Feeling healthy
4. Peace of mind & heart
5. Perfect weather days
6. Good food
7. Bills paid
8. Reliable transportation
I'm at a weird place in life. My younger self was way more social and kept in touch with people I love. My current self is super introverted and don't really talk to people I love a lot but I still love em though. People probably be thinking ion fuck with em or I'm mad at em or something but that's not the case. I just be at peace when I'm closed off. I can interact on social media and shit because it's through a screen and I still have that space to be introverted but outside of social media I'm super closed off and don't even understand why myself. Maybe one day I'll come outta this shit or maybe not but It's all love either way.
For some men, losing an incredible woman feels like freedom.
Not because she was the problem, but because now they don't have to face themselves. They can go back to their old habits, their half efforts, their emotional immaturity, and call it peace
If I’m forced to leave bc someone couldn’t fully choose me, I’m honestly fine with that. The kind of love I want to experience is way too deep for me to settle for inconsistency, emotional uncertainty or half hearted love disguised as potential
I honestly cannot overemphasize this but please start living & enjoying your life. Your life is passing by daily and all you’re doing is working, paying bills, & overthinking stuff you can't change. Start taking trips and treating yourself. Have fun with this life. You only get 1
Ngl, adult friendships require grace. People are very busy. People are healing. People are growing. People are taking time for self care just like you. Less communication isn’t less love. Check in not out.
I will never again pretend to be the easygoing, low maintenance girl. I love receiving flowers without having to ask. I appreciate unexpected “thinking of you” texts and thoughtful check ins. I enjoy forehead kisses and good morning messages. I like being taken on meaningful dates that I didn’t have to plan.
I want to be shown off, not hidden, like someone you’re proud to have. I love affection, intentional time together, and little surprises. I like to be loved out loud. I’m done making myself smaller to be easier to love. I love hard and I won’t apologize for it anymore.
Any money you spend on acquiring knowledge, looking good, staying healthy and traveling never goes to waste. Do not be cheap when it comes to these things.
This GENERATION hides behind "I don't owe anyone anything" to avoid ACCOUNTABILITY. Yes, you do. You owe APOLOGIES to those you hurt. GRATITUDE to those who showed up. RESPECT to those you disrespected. That's not weakness, that's MATURITY.