13 yrs ago, I met this guy who was 23, & I was 26. He was a church minister, & I was surprised when he msg'd me, wanting to be friends. At that time, I'd just gone thru a rough breakup w/ my GF. We started hanging out, attending public svcs w/ his church, & I saw a diff side of him.
After 1 mo of friendship, he confessed his feelings & asked if he cd court me. I was taken aback, unsure of how to react. Part of me was flattered, but another part was hesitant.
Despite my reservations, I was won over by his concern & care. Every wknd, he'd pick me up, & we'd go on joyrides, grab coffee, & watch movies. Those moments were special, & I found myself looking forward to them. B4 bed, we'd talk on the phone, sharing our thoughts & dreams.
After 4 mos of courting, I decided to give our relationship a chance. For 1 yr, everything seemed perfect. He was loving, supportive, & kind. But then, w/o warning, he left me. No explanation, no closure. I was devastated.
I tried reaching out, but he was unreachable. His # was blocked, & I was cut off from his soc med. It was like he vanished into thin air. Mos later, I learned from a mutual friend that he'd been dismissed from the church due to his relationship w/ another guy.
The news hit me hard. I was heartbroken, feeling betrayed & confused. But my love for him remained strong. I quit my job, sold my biz, & followed him to Manila, hoping to rekindle what we had. But when I got there, reality slapped me in the face. He had a new partner, & it hurt seeing him happy w/ someone else.
The person I knew was gone. The humble, kind minister I fell for was now a diff person. He had tats, identified as bisexual, & had taken up drinking & trying prohibited drugs. It was a shock, & I struggled to come to terms w/ the change.
Healing took time - 10 long yrs. But w/ each passing day, I slowly began to let go of the pain & anger. I still have love for him, but now it's tinged w/ acceptance. He's moved on, & so have I. Today, he's a successful businessman, happy w/ his partner.
every time i try to date it's either 1 they're emotionally unavailable, 2 afraid to commit 3 dont know what they want 4 in a rush or 5 in an open relationship so yes maybe im stuck in the dating rabbithole
stop putting all your deck of cards in the table, coz it’s either it’ll be used against u, or they’ll not be interested to know you any better—romantically.