Even platonically, I love people intensely. Intimacy doesnβt belong exclusively to romantic relationships. Iβll always respect someoneβs boundaries, but I think some people are surprised by deep friendship because theyβve never experienced being loved simply because someone genuinely loves them. I donβt want anything from my friends. I just really, really love them.
According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partnerβs or friendβs distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
nonsexual intimacy is such a lost art. the eye contact, the gentle touch, deep convo, holding hands, mutual support, hugging, non sexual massages, cooking a meal together, shared experiences, cuddles, curiosity, silence feels warm. i can go on an on about this
Normalize not reaching out to a woman who hasn't replied to a text or returned a call in hours or days. She knows she hasnt spoken to you, and it's because she doesnt want to.
The fastest way to detach from a person that you genuinely wanted in your life so badly is to:
let them do what they want, so you can see what they would rather do. If they want to lose you, let them. If they choose someone else, let them. The heartbreak of them confirming your feelings is so much better than letting them drain your life force energy any longer.
Mamdani is proving that everything Bernie Sanders wanted to do for the country as president really was possible. He wiped out a $12 Billion deficit, and no rich person died. Crazy how having a great politician can be good for the ppl