It amazes me that, even after reading a particular book (in the Bible) multiple times, how I can read it again and be stunned by something I missed before, or having had read it and not let it sink in.
Make sense?
I know it can be hard sometimes but NEVER choose how you feel over what you know.
Being slow to anger can mean, count the cost first.
Ask God for grace over those who trigger you.
Nothing is worth losing your peace for.
So, I spoke to people getting food at a food bank and here are some things I learned from those in need:
1. Everyone donates Kraft Mac and Cheese in the box. They can rarely use it because it needs milk and butter which is hard to get from regular food banks.
2. Boxed milk is a treasure, as kids need it for cereal which they also get a lot of.
3. Everyone donates pasta sauce and spaghetti noodles.
4. They cannot eat all the awesome canned veggies and soup unless you put a can opener in too or buy pop tops.
5. Oil is a luxury but needed for Rice a-Roni which they also get a lot of.
6. Spices or salt and pepper would be a real Christmas gift.
7. Tea bags and coffee make them feel like you care.
8. Sugar and flour are treats.
9. They fawn over fresh produce donated by farmers and grocery stores.
10. Seeds are cool in Spring and Summer because growing can be easy for some.
11. They rarely get fresh meat.
12. Tuna and crackers make a good lunch.
13. Hamburger Helper goes nowhere without ground beef.
14. They get lots of peanut butter and jelly but usually not sandwich bread.
15. Butter or margarine is nice too.
16. Eggs are a real commodity.
17. Cake mix and frosting makes it possible to make a child’s birthday cake.
18. Dishwashing detergent is very expensive and is always appreciated.
19. Feminine hygiene products are a luxury and women will cry over that.
20. Everyone loves Stove Top Stuffing.
In all the years I have donated food at the Holidays, I bought what I thought they wanted, but have never asked. I am glad I did. If you are helping a Family this Christmas, maybe this can help you tailor it more. It does for me!
Trauma makes you please other people and drain yourself by focusing too much on how they feel and making sure they feel okay. Healing makes you realize it's not your responsibility to regulate their emotions, manage their insecurities, and pacify their inner wars.
Imagine working hard to raise a loving boy, away from all toxic inceldom brainwashing and then they’ll go to school and all of that will be undone by some unsupervised kid with no home training
You deserve everything. Be obsessed with upgrading your life. Because nobody else gonna do that for you. Take a rest if you must, but never quit the journey of trying to be better than yourself. No matter who you are, you can always change & become a better version of yourself.