I genuinely do not believe people treat you how they feel about you, I believe they treat you based on the state of mind they’re in. Some people unintentionally hurt you because they’re at war with themselves & suffering with things that has nothing to do with you.
The healer also needs healing. The planner also needs surprises. The giver also needs to receive. The thoughtful also needs to be thought of. The considerate also needs to be considered.