According to psychology, the urge to immediately fix a partner’s or friend’s distress instead of just sitting with them in it isn't empathy; it is your own low frustration tolerance. When someone you love is hurting, and you instantly jump into problem-solving mode, offering unsolicited advice or trying to find a silver lining, you are often trying to soothe your own secondary anxiety. You aren't rescuing them from their pain; you are rescuing yourself from the discomfort of witnessing a vulnerability you don't know how to hold.
There's a certain kind of loneliness that doesn't come from being alone, it comes from being surrounded by people who don't really see you. You could be laughing with friends, texting back and forth, even getting compliments... but inside, it still feels empty. Like no one actually notices the storm behind your smile. And the worst part? You start to believe maybe you're just being dramatic, so you keep quiet, hoping someone will care enough to ask twice.
I just came to the realization that I should just do everything alone 😭 movie dates,trips,dinner etc. I be so fixated on wanting to do things with others I slow myself down and never end up doing things and wasting my time, energy & money.