When the chips are down, and your faith begins to waiver. What's that passage of the scripture that you draw strength from.
Mine, Psalm 131. It reads,
Lord, I've given up my pride and turned away from my arrogance.
I'm not concerned with great matters or with subjects too
My hot take is that people are actually marrying too late.
All things being equal, you should be married by 22/23.
Na economics dey make all these things take long.
And I have a few reasons.
1. If you are supposed to remain a virgin till marriage (for both sexes), then it is very unrealistic to expect someone who started puberty at 14-16, to wait another 15 years.
2. You are supposed to learn your spouse together in marriage. All your firsts, are supposed to be with your spouse. But when you have had too many relationships, it becomes really really hard to unlearn and relearn with your spouse. You become a collection of patterns and habits formed with different people, and your spouse bears the brunt of all those experiences
3. If you plan to have children, the earlier the better. But in terms of health, and in terms of longetvity. Having your first kid at 35, means that you will be attending their uni graduation at 50+, and if you have multiple kids, you might retire before you are done training the. Meanwhile, if you have your last kid at 35, you're esseentially done training your kids by 50+
So yes, marry early if possible
There is nothing you want to do outside marriage that you cannot do inside it.
If two people start a company and one contributes 90% of the capital while the other contributes just 10%, when the business starts struggling, who do you think is more likely to walk away first? Exactly, Now apply that same principle to your relationships
MrBeast didn't go to college. Logan Paul dropped out of school. David Dobrik didn't even attend college.
Today, we celebrate these people and rate them highly. But when it comes to our own Peller, that's when some of you start calling him an uneducated fellow or an "olodo" content creator.
Let me be very honest: many of you are simply jealous of that boy. The truth is that some people with PhDs cannot even achieve a fraction of what he has accomplished.
Success is not determined solely by formal education. Talent, hard work, consistency, and creativity also matter.
That rubbish mentality needs to stop.
The Polygamist is a powerful story about generational trauma, personal responsibility, and the devastating consequences of unresolved emotional wounds.
Jonas is undoubtedly a victim of childhood trauma. The movie makes it clear that many of his flaws, insecurities, and destructive behaviors are rooted in painful experiences from his past. However, understanding where his behavior comes from does not absolve him of responsibility. Trauma may explain his actions, but it does not excuse the damage he causes to those around him. One of the film’s strongest messages is that being hurt does not give anyone the right to hurt others.
What makes Mpume such an important character is that she recognizes this reality. Rather than allowing her father’s trauma to define her future, she begins the difficult process of healing and unlearning unhealthy patterns. She represents hope the possibility that generational cycles can be broken when people choose self-awareness and growth.
Menzi, however, appears to be heading in the opposite direction. While Joyce repeatedly insists that he will never become like Jonas, some of his actions suggest otherwise. His involvement with Lindani demonstrates poor judgment, blurred moral boundaries, and a willingness to repeat patterns that have already destroyed relationships within the family. In many ways, he seems to be internalizing the very dysfunction he claims to reject. If he fails to confront his own issues, he may ultimately become even more destructive than his father.
Joyce is perhaps one of the most complex characters in the story. While she suffers greatly throughout the marriage, it would be overly simplistic to view her solely as a victim. The film presents several moments where she had opportunities to leave the relationship permanently, including when divorce papers were brought forward. Instead, she repeatedly chose to remain involved in a toxic cycle. More troubling are the occasions when her anger and desire for revenge pushed her toward actions that were equally destructive. While her pain is understandable, some of her choices contributed to the chaos rather than ending it. For that reason, she must also accept responsibility for her role in the tragedy.
What makes The Polygamist compelling is that it avoids presenting its characters as purely heroes or villains. Almost everyone is both a victim and a contributor to the dysfunction in some way. The film challenges viewers to confront an uncomfortable truth: people are responsible not only for the wounds they receive, but also for what they do with those wounds.
Overall, The Polygamist is less a story about polygamy and more a story about accountability. It asks whether people can rise above the pain they inherit or whether they will pass that pain on to the next generation. Some characters choose healing, while others choose repetition. That contrast is what makes the film both frustrating and thought-provoking.
#thepolygamist
The Polygamist is a powerful story about generational trauma, personal responsibility, and the devastating consequences of unresolved emotional wounds.
Jonas is undoubtedly a victim of childhood trauma. The movie makes it clear that many of his flaws, insecurities, and destructive behaviors are rooted in painful experiences from his past. However, understanding where his behavior comes from does not absolve him of responsibility. Trauma may explain his actions, but it does not excuse the damage he causes to those around him. One of the film’s strongest messages is that being hurt does not give anyone the right to hurt others.
What makes Mpume such an important character is that she recognizes this reality. Rather than allowing her father’s trauma to define her future, she begins the difficult process of healing and unlearning unhealthy patterns. She represents hope the possibility that generational cycles can be broken when people choose self-awareness and growth.
Menzi, however, appears to be heading in the opposite direction. While Joyce repeatedly insists that he will never become like Jonas, some of his actions suggest otherwise. His involvement with Lindani demonstrates poor judgment, blurred moral boundaries, and a willingness to repeat patterns that have already destroyed relationships within the family. In many ways, he seems to be internalizing the very dysfunction he claims to reject. If he fails to confront his own issues, he may ultimately become even more destructive than his father.
Joyce is perhaps one of the most complex characters in the story. While she suffers greatly throughout the marriage, it would be overly simplistic to view her solely as a victim. The film presents several moments where she had opportunities to leave the relationship permanently, including when divorce papers were brought forward. Instead, she repeatedly chose to remain involved in a toxic cycle. More troubling are the occasions when her anger and desire for revenge pushed her toward actions that were equally destructive. While her pain is understandable, some of her choices contributed to the chaos rather than ending it. For that reason, she must also accept responsibility for her role in the tragedy.
What makes The Polygamist compelling is that it avoids presenting its characters as purely heroes or villains. Almost everyone is both a victim and a contributor to the dysfunction in some way. The film challenges viewers to confront an uncomfortable truth: people are responsible not only for the wounds they receive, but also for what they do with those wounds.
Overall, The Polygamist is less a story about polygamy and more a story about accountability. It asks whether people can rise above the pain they inherit or whether they will pass that pain on to the next generation. Some characters choose healing, while others choose repetition. That contrast is what makes the film both frustrating and thought-provoking.
#thepolygamist
Tinubu is the president in charge of insecurity but Peter Obi is the one they are angry at for not answering insecurity questions. 😅🤣😀
Crazy things are happening..
As a Nigerian, I find it absurd that since 2022, Peter Obi has been the only major front-runner relentlessly grilled, constantly interviewed, and forced to engage the public at every turn. Meanwhile, Atiku and Tinubu seem to glide by without facing anything close to the same scrutiny. What exactly is going on here? Do they believe they are too important to be questioned, or are their supporters simply more comfortable shielding them from accountability and public scrutiny?
Nobody hears from the president, who sits on high Mount Olympus and only graces Nigerians with carefully scripted appearances and distant press statements from Bayo Onanuga, as though leadership is a privilege to be admired from afar rather than a responsibility to be constantly examined. Atiku is no different, equally distant, equally insulated, and just as unwilling to submit himself to the kind of sustained, unscripted engagement that true leadership demands.
My Prime Minister, Carney, faces the press almost daily and endures relentless grilling from the opposition in Parliament on virtually every issue. That is what accountability looks like in a functioning democracy.
Tinubu, on the other hand, answers to no one.
#NigeriaWillBeOK