No disrespect to anyone, but God please don’t send me another man who doesn’t know how to communicate, take accountability, or emotionally show up. I don’t want a man who’s still battling himself, avoiding healing, depressed, or emotionally unavailable and refusing help. I don’t want a man who can’t stand firm, speak for himself, or take control of his own life. I don’t want a man who belongs to someone else, is still tied to past situations, or lacks compassion, empathy, patience, and romance. I’m not built to carry a grown man through life while neglecting myself. Dealing with someone like that will drain you mentally, emotionally, and physically. I want a partner who’s already doing the work, not one I have to break myself trying to fix. Keep that kind of man far away from me.
The obsession with making someone regret losing you is exhausting. Some people just lose you and sleep just fine. You weren’t the main character in their story and that’s perfectly okay.