For a RELATIONSHIP to really work, you gotta understand this: You and your partner are TWO different people, with two different pasts, trying to build ONE future. You didn't grow up the same, you won't always think the same, and that's okay. What matters is HOW you handle it. Communicate without turning everything into an argument. Listen even when you're frustrated. Stop keeping score and start choosing growth. Because every disagreement shouldn't create distance. It should build understanding
Every time I spoke up about something that bothered me, I somehow ended up being the problem. Instead of hearing me out, everything turned into my reaction, my tone, or the fact that I even brought it up. Thatโs when I realized some people donโt want honesty, they want silence. They donโt mind doing things that affect you, they just donโt want to hear about it afterward. Once I saw that pattern, I stopped explaining myself and started keeping my distance.
Benny Blanco reveals the simple texting rule he uses to make Selena Gomez feel completely safe when they are apart!
" If she's away and I have to go to a dinner, then a party, then this thing, then that thing... it's a simple text in between each thing that says, 'Hey babe, I'm going to this next thing, I'm thinking about you.'"
" Where couples start to hit it is when they miss that text... I know what she needs to succeed, so I'm gonna help her succeed. I'm not going to be a d*ck."
" She doesn't need a lot... she wants me to text her if I wind up having to stay somewhere two hours late. Just a simple take out your phone and done."
I'll always find it crazy when people double back on people that were disrespectful to your partner.. it just says you never gave a fuck about the disrespect in the first place ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ