so when i ask black men to protect black women, that means in love too. that means in love especially. because love is where the black woman is most vulnerable.
my experience has led me to believe that most black men are more loyal to their friendships than to their lovers— that they see love as a contractual obligation for black women to bear unnecessary pain, instead of an opportunity to serve that woman. to honor that woman.
i have been protected and supported by black male friends, who not only hear me, but respect what i have to say. i have also been disrespected and dismissed by black male lovers, who knew me most intimately, and to whom i gave the most respect to.
as an “actual” private person, i can over confirm that people becomes very odd when they can’t figure you out or what’s truly going on in your life and beyond the surface. most importantly, normalize lying to people who ask too much about your private life. people be weird asf.
My little brother proposed 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹 and he has such good taste! Im getting an INCREDIBLE sister in law. Already writing my speech 🥰❤️ Congrats Josh & Jami!
i’m holding space for disappointment today. y’all not gon rush me out of my feelings either! i refuse to hurry up and find the goodness in this moment. i really want us to stop rushing to be strong— ain’t no award for that.
If you’re a Black woman, it’s time to get strict. Get laser focused on YOU for a change. We’ve been carrying everyone else’s weight, solving everyone’s problems, and it’s exhausting. Be “ruthless without cruelty” and call back your energy — DO NOT GIVE IT AWAY ANYMORE!