Healing tip: You do not have to understand something to be able to accept it. Hear me out. Maybe you'll never wrap your head around something incredibly hurtful, devastating or cruel that someone did or said to you. You will never fully understand it because you simply don't operate that way. You’re incapable of that behavior, so OF COURSE it doesn’t make sense to you. Why would it? How
could it? Being unable to understand it doesn't mean that you need to sit around trying to figure it out or investigate their reasoning. Fuck their reasoning.
There are things in life that are going to be mysteries that you DO NOT need to solve. Accept that yes, it was fucked up and it hurt you, but also accept that you owe it to yourself to move on. Their reasons have everything to do with the type of person that THEY are, and nothing to do with you.
Normalize trusting your instincts. When your intuition tells you something is off about a person or a place – trust it and remove yourself immediately.