@fanonomenon You have this effect on people just by being nice to people that others aren't usually nice to. Happened to me as a kid more than once. Stuck up for a kid getting bullied and afterwards he would say I was his best friend. It's an awkward situation to navigate as a 10 year old
unlearn shame. all forms of shame: unemployment, illness, vulnerability, longing, desire, errors, failures. you do not need to feel ashamed of what you are experiencing or living. freedom and shame cannot coexist.
Be careful with conclusions you only reach when you’re exhausted, ashamed, angry, or afraid. Your feelings are valid, but they don’t always contain the whole truth.
took 2 years to not date or waste anyone’s time and work on myself as a person and all I’ve learned was, wasting somebody’s time is better than being lonely
The even bigger lesson here is that she didn’t make any corrective gesture. A person of that stature has just corrected you, you ought to show that you’ve taken on the correction with an explicit “I am sorry sir” with a smile, or with your body language. It communicates “I didn’t mean to be disrespectful”. But she staged a ‘come-back’ face instead.
There’s an education a lot of GenZs have gotten from the internet about corporate relations and comms that’s largely flawed.
“If you come late, don’t say ‘I’m sorry.’ Say ‘thank you for your patience’ instead”
“If someone points out an error in your work, don’t say ‘thank you’ or ‘I’m sorry about that’, say ‘good catch’ instead”
They sold apologies as a weakness. It’s really unfortunate. In a lot of cases, correction is a gift, a gift of context and perspective, that you can learn from. But an entire generation has been taught that correction is an attack and apologies are signs of weakness.