It’s also the fact that you can tell by their responses they aren’t trying to hear her out or understand her at all they just want to poke holes in what she’s saying and prove her wrong
if u offer me a sincere apology & change ur behavior, I'll never bring up our past issues again. But if no apology was given and ur still repeating mistakes, u can't ask me to stop mentioning the past. The "past" is actually the present if u haven't changed.