As a lovergirl a lot of people will fall in love with the idea of having you, but lack the ability to reciprocate your energy. This is where they lose you.
Just apologize when you know you messed up. All that manipulative behavior, deflecting, and getting mad at someone for being upset when they have every right to be, is weird. That’s not maturity, that’s avoidance. People love to say they’re grown until it’s time to take accountability, own their actions, and make it right. Growth is admitting fault without excuses, not turning yourself into the victim when you caused the damage.
Most relationships taught me that the more chances you give someone the less they value you. They aren't afraid to lose you bcoz they know no matter what, you won't walk away. Respect and love yourself enough to start choosing distance over disrespect.
People will do you so dirty and have the nerve to question why you're not interested in being around them anymore. You don't provide me any peace, i can't trust you, i can't have my guard down around you, Like why would i want to keep you around???
At this point in my life, it doesn't matter how much I love you, how long l've known you, how much we've experienced together. If I feel a way about your actions, I'm gracefully removing myself from your life. I can't change anyone and I don't want to. I'm noticing now more than ever how people move and there's just certain things I no longer want to put my energy into. People do exactly what they want regardless of your feelings, advice or opinions. Some people don't notice your impact until your presence is no longer at their convenience
sometimes u just have to tell people look, I love u & I’ll probably love u forever but I’m no longer interested in the level of life u have to offer me & because of that I have to let u go. I’m not even asking u to change I just need u to understand that u can keep doing what u wanna do & how u wanna do it, u just can’t do it with me. U gotta love people from a distance to protect your peace & let whoever think whatever.
I won't end this year pretending everything was fine. I lost a piece of myself this year that I will never get back, and I'm not forcing a smile as if it didn't change me. So no, I won't be saying “2026 is going to be my year”. I'll be praying that I recover next year, that my heart never has to break like this again, that I never have to survive something like this again. I'll be hoping for peace. Real peace, the kind that lets me breathe without fighting for it. I deserve a year that doesn't hurt.
My loss?
No, your loss.
You lost a woman who would do everything just to see you happy. A woman who gave her time and efforts just so you could feel loved and appreciated. You lost a woman who kept trying to fix things even when she was the one hurting, just so you wouldn't leave. You lost a woman who always put you first, even if it meant leaving her own needs behind. A woman who was proud to tell the world about you. A woman who loved you more than she loved herself. So no, it's never my loss
"stay with them through ups & downs."
downs are NOT:
-cheating
-disrespect
-abuse: verbal, mental, physical, spiritual
-manipulation
-gaslighting
-control
downs are:
-financial hardships
-health issues
-tragic death/injury
-rough points in a relationship (arguing, lack of
intercourse, losing the "spark")
-trouble keeping/finding individuality in a relationship
stop normalizing putting yourself through trauma trying to prove to somebody that you love them
Men are not attractive anymore and i’m not even talking about looks. they are so disrespectful, want princess treatment, can't communicate & can't connect emotionally, immature and more.. is a complete turn off.