Omolara🦋

PEARLQUEEN👑 || Creative/Artistic Director at O_Cubed Fashion House || Fashion Illustrator ||Top Notch Fashion Expert and Tutor || IG: @_molarry @O_CUBEDFH

[Omolara🦋 @_molarry]

These ones sure made me proud. Congratulations to y'all!
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[Omolara🦋 @_molarry]

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[Omolara🦋 @_molarry]

PFems!
Leader of Leaders!!
Sense Merchant!!!
President!!!!
Lead Administrator!!!!!
Happy birthday!!!!!!!

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#CelebratingPFems

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[Esther Olawoye @Estherolawoyea]

Affirm this for 2021!.

I'm changing things up.
I'm removing good excesses.
Because I need only the bests
who are solely
aligned with the change
I need.
😎

Then get to work!

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Bonus bonus point about shame of marital failure - My dearest people, there's nothing to be ashamed of. Shame is only but a social construct created by society. Na marriage end, you no kill person. You are smart & amazing & beautiful things lie ahead for you. You matter. You rock

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Your happpiness, joy, peace and mental health come first, so always put yourself first. Be confident in yourself. Be your own person; don't let the marriage stop you from being who you are. Have your own interests, friends and goals. Heal from past trauma. Selah

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

So these are my 7 lessons. I hope you've learnt something or at least been reminded of something you've learnt before.
But of course I have bonus points -

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

However, no one is perfect so learn to accept your partner. If you desire to become better at anything, work on it together. That helps you even grow closer. An example is if you desire to live a healthier lifestyle, you guys can work out together and all. That's romantic sef.

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Lesson 7 - Your partner is not perfect. Learn to accept your partner with their flaws and all. You are meant to grow together. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't heal from past trauma or that you should be a shitty person & be waiting for someone to come and save you.

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Marriage is not child's play. So take your time, grow, learn, travel, be exposed, read, ask questions, go to counselling, all before getting married. It is not something to be rushed into. Do not let anyone, especially society pressure or rush you into getting married.

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Lesson 6 - Marriage takes responsibility and maturity. This is something I am still learning; infact a lot of us are. A lot of people don't know the responsibility it takes to be in a relationship or marriage. It's not all fun & games. It is a very serious commitment.

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Lesson 5 - Don't go to bed angry. This is also something you've heard a lot. I mean this literally and otherwise. Don't let anger fester & grow in your relationship. To be honest, this is what broke us. Don't let the small issues turn into big issues. Don't sweat the small stuff

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

you need to talk about your sex life, about cooking, home care, finances & so much more. A lot of people go into marriage without discussing these things. If these were discussed, a lot of couples would even know that they have different expectations & should not be together.

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Lesson 4 - Discuss your expectations and desires before marriage. This is closely related to communication. You need to be sure of yourself as a person and clear about your expectations & desires in marriage. You need to talk about things as important as kids if you want them,

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Lesson 3 - Communication is key. This one, I'm sure you've heard & you're probably tired of hearing but it is sooo true. Talk about everything with your partner, I mean everything. Talk about things as random as the weather and as deep as your sex life, your aspirations & dreams

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Lesson 2 - Don't fight to win as an individual but as a team. Hmm this one. Please remember that you're a team when you become married and fights & disagreements are inevitable, but don't fight to be the winner in any disgreement. Your partner is not the enemy. Win together.

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

we ignore the signs. We believe the person would change after marriage. But brethren, people hardly change. If the person is lazy, stingy, unforgiving or unkind before marriage, these things would only become worse after marriage. So be wise & do not ignore the signs.

[Social Prefect @ChiamakaObuekwe]

Lesson 1 - Don't ignore the signs. The truth is there are always signs there. Marriage only escalates the issues. If he or she were a particular way before the marriage, it would only get worse afterwards. The problem is that a lot of people (including me) are blindly in love so