I like when people have a strong sense of self and aren’t a caricature of others. People who take self discovery seriously. From what they like to wear, to their core beliefs. People who’re more interested in being a version that pleases them, not one that impresses the public.
Nobody tells you that some of your biggest milestones happen quietly. No party. No post. Just you, standing in your kitchen, realizing you finally feel okay.
Burnout is not treated like a system failure.
It is treated like a personal weakness.
Too much work? → Manage your time better.
Too many meetings? → Be more resilient.
Impossible deadlines? → Improve your mindset.
The system stays the same.
Only the exhausted employee gets diagnosed.
Boss: Hey, do you have a second?
Employee: Yeah.
Boss: I have some good news. Your acting assignment as acting manager is finally coming to an end.
Employee: So is the good news that I got the position permanently now?
Boss: Oh no, I thought you got the email that said we were going in a different direction. We did hire somebody externally, and I am hoping that you wouldn't mind helping train her.
Employee: So you didn't hire me for the position that I've been acting in for nine months — you hired someone else externally — and now you want me to train them? No, I'm not doing that.
Boss: Oh, it's nothing against you. Number one, you're so good at your current role, and not only that, but she just has a little bit more experience, and it was just a better fit overall.
Employee: So being good at my current role is hindering my growth in the company?
Boss: No.
Employee: I'm not going to be training someone. If I'm not qualified for the position, then I'm not qualified to teach someone who's more qualified than me. I hope that makes sense.
Boss: OK.
Employee: (Starts drafting resignation email.)