Let me tell you something,
When your penis goes flaccid whenever you wear a condom, it means,
โข You are still a boy, not mature for sexual intimacy
โข You have a flaccid mental frame
โข You are dick-driven, excited by pleasure, and your goal is to secrete seminal fluid
An erection is a command to lead.
The propensity to fall flaccid, or fail to sustain an erection, is an indication that you are heading into a battlefield already as a loser.
Listen,
A man decides, mentally, when to erect, and when to ignore.
He can look at a naked woman and decide whether to consummate or just ignore.
A man decides when to secrete the juice of conception, or just ignore.
He is the decision maker.
A man does not moan in bed, nor does he howl and scream. He is wholly cold and ruthless. Nothing distracts his attention because his duty is to declare his territorial grip.
He can ignore a woman's drama, her squeaks, and pleasurable tantrums and focus on achieving his goal of making a new baby in the woman.
During the process, he can walk away, go sip a glass of water, return on mission, and continue hammering the chisel.
But boys and men with weak mental grit struggle to even maintain an erection.
They have been depolarised by masturbation and porn addiction.
Their sexual centre in the brain is desensitised. So, they don't wear condoms, they swallow viagra, they rely on women to fan the embers.
A horny woman has already surrendered herself to you. The armour is in your hands, literally, how then do you expect someone you have conquered to hoist your flag?
Walk on the mountain top, plant your flag at the peak and declare conquest.
The biggest tragedy with men who struggle with sustaining an erection is that they sleep with women whose sexual nerves are cold dead due to several body counts, alcohol, shisha, and Okra.
These women are numb. And fake.
Leave them.
A man must understand that unless his mental acuity is as tamper-proof as iron, he will continue drinking porridge thinking it will harden his intention.
Porridge. Concoctions. Viagra. Or even prayers won't restore anything as long as your internal environment is weak.
Nothing will, unless you build your mental frame and begin seeing yourself as a confident man with the self-esteem of a mountain.