Losing a man who never planned dates, didn't buy you flowers, gave your nervous system a run for its money, and gave you the bare minimum.... isn't a loss.
breakups hurt but you know what really fucking hurts? Trying to “make it work” with someone who has proven to you time and time again that they do not give a fuck about your feelings. that hurts.
Have you ever met someone so incredible that, instead of chasing them, you start fixing your life? You think, "Hold on. Let me heal, clean up my habits, and get my mind right." It’s not about trying to impress them; it’s because they deserve the version of you that you’re still building.
Do not talk about discernment if you cannot recognise when someone needs compassion more than criticism and correction. There is a time to guide and a time to simply hold space for a person who is hurting. Wisdom knows the difference. And kindness knows it even faster.
i don't like dealing with people who make me feel like i'm losing my mind trying to get them to understand how i feel. I don't like having to keep shit bottled up inside. I don't like feeling like my feelings don't matter. I can't deal with anyone who makes me feel like that.
I'm usually the person that tries to fix bonds but lately I’ve been letting people stand on how they feel. We ain't never gotta talk again. That's perfectly fine by me. 😘
Right now life is teaching me the law of detachment. Nothing is really yours, you gotta be comfortable with not being attached, just enjoying life for what it is & moving on when it’s time.
Nobody prepares you for the amount of pain and grief you experience when you have to forgive yourself for believing someone was actually a genuine person. The hardest part isn't just their betrayal, it's the shame you carry for ignoring your instincts.