Truth is, many patients do not come to therapy to change. Not really.
They may say and think they want to change. It soon becomes evident that they want to continue being exactly the person they have been, and living life in the same self-limiting ways, but feel better doing it.
Real psychotherapy begins with helping the person to not only understand but truly take to heart that what they want is impossible.
In other words, the real work of therapy may begin with crushing disappointment, as the patient struggles to reconcile with the painful truth that neither the therapist nor anyone else has the power to give them what they want.
To feel different, they must become different—and there is no bypass around the psychological work. Paradoxically, it is this terrible disappointment that opens the door to realistic hope.
Sadly, for every therapist who understands this and is prepared to join the patient in doing the difficult work, there are many more “therapists” happy to foster the patient’s illusion that they can feel different without becoming different, and therapy can work by magic.
Choose wisely.
A ideol◇gia funciona como uma tentativa de tamponar a angústia gerada pela indeterminação do mundo. Algo que, em termos, poderia ser pensado como uma tentativa de reduzir o real ao máximo de simbolização fixa possível.
Que chinguen a su madre cada vez que respiren los que tienen así de jodido el transporte y las vialidades en el sur. Insostenible. Oriné en la coladera.