i've started understanding why the prophet ﷺ made so many du'as about the heart. a sound heart can handle delays, forgive people, remain grateful, and keep turning back to Allah. so much of life becomes easier when the heart is at peace.
honestly don’t know who needs to hear this but you’re way better off single with high standards than accepting the bare minimum from a boy who doesn’t know what he wants.
Girl, a man who wants you will make effort without being begged. He’ll plan dates, text first, call you, and care about your day. Stop going through hell with men who don’t really want you. The moment you feel yourself chasing him, let him go.
they stopped blaming their parents. their ex. their childhood. not because none of it hurt, but because they figured out they're the only one who can fix it now. the day you own your part is the day you get your power back.
I read somewhere:
"Allah will never make you pray for something that was never meant for you." Maybe that's why the dua itself is already a sign, because if he placed it in your heart to ask, it means he's already planning to give it to you, just in his perfect time.
how to stop fawning so you don’t get an autoimmune disease:
- pause before answering. say “let me think about that” instead of an automatic yes
- build interoceptive awareness. since fawning overrides your own signals, practice internal check-ins to help you locate your own stance before defaulting to someone else’s
- practice with small boundaries first in low-risk situations to build tolerance for the discomfort that follows disagreement
- recognize that another grown adult’s feelings are never an emergency
- resist the urge to apologize when you’ve done nothing wrong
stop emotionally caretaking grown adults and your health will thrive.
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Cada vez que me enojo con mi vieja paso del enojo a la tristeza en un segundo porq me acuerdo de esto, además nadie le enseñó a ser MAMÁ y me da mas TRISTEZA aaaaa