Sorry, but a man who ruins your mental health cannot be the love of your life. Ever. I know you love him. I know you've built a future in your mind with him. I know you keep hoping he'll change, that things will get better, that the good moments will eventually outweigh the bad.
But here's the truth you need to hear: real love doesn't destroy you. Real love doesn't leave you anxious, depressed, constantly questioning yourself, walking on eggshells, or losing pieces of who you are. That's not love, that's trauma bonding.
i heard a lady on a podcast say...."I finally get it...I am the problem. I walk into people's life with energy, loyalty, love, and peace they never had...and truthfully, never deserved.
i disrupt their comfort zone of chaos. they're not used to real. they're addicted to dysfunction. that's why they start acting weird... because my presence requires growth, and they aren't ready for that.
cool I'll take a step back. keep your mess. i’ll keep my peace!!
Mistreating your partner on purpose just to make them leave so you don't have to take responsibility for the breakup is its own kind of evil...... Which is very common in Narcissists Personality.