Just seen a video where a girl said the real flex is training your mind to be stronger than your feelings and your boundaries to be strong than your empathy. At this point I clearly need that tatted on my forehead in bold print.
In relationships women are reciprocators, not initiators. You lead, she follows. You put in effort, she returns it. You make her feel good, she mirrors it. That’s the only way it works.
my therapist advised, "learn to calm your own storm instead of venting to others. it may feel therapeutic to let it all out, but you reinforce negative thoughts. it’s no one’s job but yours to pull yourself out of your problems. journal, meditate, exercise,and release." felt that
The ideal version of me
reads a lot.
has phenomenal sex
Loves deeply
travels 4 times a year
hosts dinner parties
writes
sleeps enough
curates art
owns a book bar
Knows when to walk away
gives grounded and sincere apologies